When I was 16, I attended a workshop for my summer job with Louise and Sam Dietzel. They had these Rules for Life that they shared wth us, and my life was forever changed.

I was trying to distinguish myself from my siblings, and trying to figure out who I was and what was important to me, and quite frankly, struggling to find my place in the world. Their thoughtful rules and words resonated with me so profoundly that all these years later, they are still my go-to when I’m down.

• I am responsible to myself and for myself
• I create my own experiences and feelings
• When I speak, I say more about myself than the other person
• At any given moment, I am doing the very best I can
• Be kind and gentle with yourself

Louise added this last one years after Sam had passed, and it’s a good one.

I also believe that everything happens for a reason. And though the reason is not always evident, that doesn’t matter. I just have to believe and have faith in these words, because it feels good to believe in something outside of myself. (Can’t believe I’m using that word again)

*And on a side note, a few years ago, I had the opportunity to talk with Louise and let her know how these rules have impacted my life…and she was so pleased! She was smiling ear to ear, and I’m so glad I was able to share that with her!